I have never intended to use this blog as a place to talk about a specific person but I am making an exception today for 2 reasons. First, I believe since I have next to no readership that this is at least a moderately private place. Second, some people just need to have the truth told about them somewhere, even if only in an obscure little blog place like this.
I met this individual on a dating website. He is nearly 75 years old and he portrays himself as a highly intelligent, gentlemanly person who is pleasantly in retirement, seeking a female companion who is like minded, intelligent, relatively healthy, etc.
The same behavior pattern I'm about to describe has been shown to me in person twice. The first time I could let it slide, the second, hm, well not so much. I will not give his full name here. If you want that, you will need to give me a good reason and some information about him to make me believe you need the information.
We spoke by phone for at least a month, maybe a week or two more prior to our actual meeting. He has a nice small home near the Arkansas/Texas state line. He has extensive illnesses that require medication and also uses a walker to move in the house and everywhere he goes. He is still able to drive but in my opinion, he will be able to do that much longer.
He is very nice, generous, kind....for a period of about 7 to 10 days. At that time, he becomes very insulting, degrading, irritating in the extreme. On both occasions this behavior appeared RIGHT AFTER I had completed a 2,5 to 3 hour chore of helping him get ready for a doctor's appointment, driving him to and from the appointment, and participating in the exams by the doctors and asking relevant questions of the doctor regarding the man's health, which he had given me permission and even asked me to do.
On both occasions, once I had him safely back into the car from the doctor and we were headed back to his home, he became verbally critical and abusive of everything about me...not about anything with the doctor visit. Rather, with my driving, my personality, my very existence it seemed. To be honest, I do not take this kind of verbal abuse lightly and I returned my opinion of his attack on me. No profanity of course but firm. I believe he had gotten what he wanted from me and rather than just ask me to leave, he engaged in the abuse.
Once he was back in his home safely, I packed my things and promptly left his home. Both times, I intended never to return or even speak on the phone with him. He is the one who initiated the phone calls the second time. I'm very sorry I accepted those calls and the attempt to "make up" for the previous behavior. I will not make that mistake again and I urge anyone reading this who has a similar experience to not give a second chance.
I'm giving initials only here but if you feel you've possibly run into someone like this and want to confirm your feelings, let me know. The initials are RS, has a south Texas phone number.
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